Hi Sweetie-
It's one of the most painful things to experience, I know. My beautiful daughter was doing the same. I HAD to move out when she was 16 and she stayed with her Dad- I became the MONSTER. That was almost 5 yrs. ago, and our relationship is still touch and go.
I found out one of the biggest reasons she didn't come round me was she was loaded. And I'm an addict, and alcoholic as is her Dad. Her father was not parenting her, too busy. In fact he knew she was getting loaded and the past couple yrs. she was a drinking buddy to him... I was "locked" out of her life, my BABY! only child and no one would let me in.. I can't tell you how many tears I cried and how the stress wore. Taz, H00ters, and LisasLuck listened to me almost daily!! They helped me more than they know. Oh, if she came round me, I would have known she was loaded. I haven't had a drink in or pills (to get loaded) in over 8 yrs. I can't say I'm clean, cause I smoke pot, very little, but, I can't lie about my clean time.
She's gonna be 21 in April.. She's still in danger, but not as bad. We're trying to build a relationship, she's a computer wiz and is at least taking a class at Valley Collage!
So, my heart goes out. I will send a prayer, and positive thoughts every day!!
A few yrs. ago, my prayer or wish was if she can't be in my life, please please let her be ok!!!
If you need to talk, I mean it, just let me know.
XOX
Liz