Bad New York Child Support

[titanic71212]

Ok, I was receiving $400 a month in child support for my 12 year old son, so 9 weeks ago his father died suddenly, ChildSupport gets notified and stops all my payments till we all go in front of the Judge (by all I mean, myself representing my son, his oldest daughter who is 33, and his other son who is 22), to gather his assessts and crap. Now here is the kicker, every year his father would put is tax return into the pot down at Child Support so he was always ahead in his support about $4000 in case he ever missed a payment or whatever, now the Child Support Unit tells me this monies now becomes part of his estate and that it may have to be split with his older children. To say I am livid is a complete and utter understatement. That money that is sitting in Albany County Child Support is my sons and not only have I not received my last two months of child support now I find out I may have to split it with his adult child. Oh New York you are sooooooo trying my patience.....

 

[weesie]

OMG!! That is terrible! How can they do that?? Do his "ADULT" children really need it that bad?? To take it away from a child!

My heart goes out to you and your son!

weesie

I'd want to knock someone around, for sure!

 

[judyb57]

Yes, I imagine it is frustrating, but you will be able to get Social Security for him at least hon.

 

[titanic71212]

Yes, he will get death benefits for the rest of his life because he is also disabled. But all this takes time, mean while my childsupport is not coming in, it is very frustrating waiting on courts, because he died so suddenly he had no will so all his assessts are now sitting waiting for a judge to decide what to do, I understand all this, but i want to say to Judge "that's all fine, but would mind telling my son he cannot go to camp this summer, he cannot get his new summer clothes, etc..." I have to cut alot of things out now, including special meals that my son and I go out to once a month, museum trips which he loves, and all kinds of little things and of course no casino playing.

 

[judyb57]

I totally understand titanic, I went through the same thing when my boys were 12, 12 and 15. It will all work out, I swear. hang in there

 

[dani3839]

wow, that really sucks dear.

Wisconsin laws are just as screwed up too

 

[CareyG]

Its absolutely ridiculous Titanic!! I am sorry you have to deal with this, it truly sucks. I would fight it every and any way you can! Tell his grown up children to back the heck off, this is a child and their brother!!!​

 

[CALizzz]

$hit!

Ya- what do you do in the mean time??? I know your frustration!!

 

[titanic71212]

Ok first thank you for allowing me to vent my frustrations... I was on the edge yesterday got the letter from the lawyer and was livid. Just so you know I am not swimming in poverty lol, I do have a few dollars put away for certain things but was hoping not to touch that for years, but I guess in the name of my child eating, camping, etc... I will dip in, it is rainy day money and I guess it is raining now lolol.

Thank you again for the vent posts, things will be tight for awhile but my child will not starve, and I will not go w/o my cigs and coffee lol, I will go w/o casinos, I will not buy expensive batteries for my "little friend" lolol "you know ladies what I'm talking about", so you know all the little things that moms enjoy will be gone for a bit. lolol

again thank you ladies

 

[sorcer3ss (RETIRED)]

At least you haven't lost your sense of humour hon, hope it all works out quickly for you, I can understand your frustration.

 

[PIXIEW]

I WILL SAY THIS IS A SAD SAD LIFE EVENT YOU ARE DEALING WITH FOR YOU AND YOUR SON!!! I AM GLAD YOU CAN JOKE WE CANT LOSE HUMOR OR WE WOULD LOSE IT ALL! SO THANK YOU FOR THE MORNING LAUGH FOR ME HERE FROM YOUR POST I will not buy expensive batteries for my "little friend" lolol "you know ladies what I'm talking about", so you know all the little things that moms enjoy will be gone for a bit. lolol

again thank you ladies AND TO END MY POST I WANT TO SAY FROM MY HEART I HOPE THIS ALL MOVES FAST IN YOUR DIRECTION SO YOU CAN DO ALL YOU NEED AND WANT FOR THAT YOUNG SON OF YOURS GOD BLESS HIM AND YOU!!! :friends